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Leah Libresco Sargeant's avatar

Alexi and I try to make a habit of telling each other about the smaller, hidden bits of maintenance (e.g. the perennial wet swiffering of the floor, erased by the time he's home; unpacking and rearranging the boxes in the storage room). Because it would be easy to not notice them, and we try to tell and receive them not as a "Because you never notice" and more as a "I know you wouldn't want to miss the chance to be happy about this" and that's mostly where we land!

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Grace Hill's avatar

I love this book! I bought it when it came out in 1999 and it’s on my shelf right now.

As I’ve suffered through a debilitating illness over the last year, I’ve been grateful for the slack in our household system—slack which is only available because my husband and I made the choice for me not to work outside the home. Giving ourselves that space is, in my opinion, another good reason for one person to opt out of a “typical” employment track.

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