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Ivan Fyodorovich's avatar

This was an excellent and horrifying review. It occurs to me that a recurring, though not universal, feature of these maladaptive societies is that they seem to have rules that are driven by maximal indulgence of the worst male impulses. The Marind-anim traditions are at the extreme end of this.

Before reading this I'd always thought of gender relations along an egalitarian vs. traditional framework, but I realize there's a second axis: friendly vs. adversarial. I hadn't thought about this axis because except for some internet weirdos, pretty much everyone in North America in 2024 wants men and women to love each other. Perhaps in an egalitarian structure, perhaps in one with required roles, but there's no notion that I am trying to hurt my wife and she is trying to poison me. This is nice, let's keep it this way people.

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Chris Coffman's avatar

First, congratulations on the birth of your child! Secondly, there’s no sign of post-partum brain fog in your fascinating essay. The horrendous examples of relationships between the sexes remind me of the ironic “de-motivation” memes that used to circulate, spoofing po-faced American corporate culture.

This meme in particular seems apposite to your discussion of primitive marital dystopias: “Have you ever considered that the true purpose of your life is to serve as a terrible warning to others?”

Your and your husband’s Substack posts are great.

I wish you both much success, as well as much marital and family happiness!

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