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I first read this book years and years ago as the son of a downwardly mobile family attending an upper-prole college. And as John warns, it fundamentally changed the way I understood everyone around me and made me hyperaware of my own tastes and behaviors. Somehow, I zig-zagged my way up the ladder a bit enough to encounter, and work among, the real upper and upper-middle class of my midsized city. I had grown up in the same city as these people but had never encountered them at all before. They have done an incredible job of isolating themselves from both the mids and the proles despite their geographic proximity.

What I find particularly interesting now are the class distinctions between the strivers and the inter-generationally wealthy, both of whom I encounter in law practice. The old money people (OMPs) erect these invisible barriers that the stivers have difficulty perceiving. The strivers lean hard into the value of education and intellectual pursuits while the OMPs are almost anti-intellectual. The OMPs often have done very well academically, but it is assumed that of course you’d do whatever needed to be done to maintain your class standing. One shouldn’t lean on it too much. That’s tacky. If you admit to an OMP that you are reading St. Augustine or studying Greek in your free time, they will smirk. Acceptable leisure activities for them generally involve socializing at the club, playing golf or tennis, or spending time at your lake house. Why would you read a book? Basically, any expression of genuine excitement or earnest curiosity is right out. Everything hast to be held a little at arm’s length. The strivers like to travel to Europe and will pack their days with sightseeing. The OMPs travel to Europe, too, but they do little sightseeing. A more appealing vacation for an OMP might be skiing. They love skiing. And it’s kind of understandable why: you have to do it regularly, it costs a lot, you have to know where to go and when to go, and there’s a lot of unusual equipment and clothing involved. It's perfectly frivolous. It’s very difficult for strivers to break into this world if you didn’t grow up in it—especially if you all live in the South. While the strivers like to attend the symphony or the ballet, the OMPs sit on the board but leave halfway through the performance. And in law practice, while the strivers do most of the work, the OMPs have all the clients.

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Sep 22Edited

Fussell should be humiliated by proposing "Class X", which is clearly the (self-defeating) upper-middle attempt to ascend into the upper by demonstrating superior sophistication via tasteful subversion of good taste. Class X is not some escape, it is just the same old engine that keeps the thing turning (which is why it diffused down to the middle class over the next generation or so).

Conscious subversion of class expectation is the core goal of (failing) upper middle status climbers. Why? Because actual indifference to class expectation is the fundamental class marker of the upper class, and the climbing upper middles are ineptly aping it.

True ascent to the upper requires actually not caring, which is why the upper class is so hard to enter: it must be stumbled into indifferently like some magic door only found by those who do not seek it. Being third+ generation rich unsurprisingly makes this easier.

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