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Keith Page's avatar

Seems to be that the history of the 20th century I was taught only about civil rights, but that one we need to keep exploring - and one that is very challenging to tell without moral grandstanding or judgment - is about civil religion. About how a future beamed in front of people that opened up new possibilities never dreamt. How that generated blitzkriegs and World Fairs.

It's a challenging history to tell - but this was gracefully done. Great read.

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Liebe Frau Psmith, I'd like to pick your brain a bit more about the cohabitation/bastardy thing. If laxness about something is bad, it follows that some level of stigma around it is, at the very least, a necessary evil. A social norm probably won't stay normative for very long if the repercussion for eschewing it is a confused grunt and a shrug from your elders. How, then, should society treat the cases where, inevitably, some kida will still be born out of wedlock?

When we found out my girlfriend was pregnant last Fall, I promptly proposed to her. We'd been living together for just over a year, in a tiny stuffy apartment which could barely hold the two of us, so we had to move all while my now-fiancée was going through particularly rough and long-lingering morning sickness. Hardly the best time to plan a wedding, and I knew she didn't want to simply nip down to the city hall. The wee man has arrived, and we're still living in sin.

To your mind, in a society with a healthy amount of social pressure in favour of marriage, how would these pressures have applied to us? Would our families have been likely enough to be scandalized by our cohabiting that we wouldn't have tried it in the first place? If we did still conceive, would the expectations of relatives have been strong enough to make us have a shotgun wedding, if only in a church cellar with two witnesses and a candle? (Sounds fun to me!) And if we were antisocial enough to ignore all those pressures, would the little guy be a FitzMalcolm, perhaps even barred from inheriting my Stratocaster and my yard sale frying pan unless I legitimized him at a later date?

I'm much more chill with the idea of being admonished rightward than leftward, and I honestly had fun writing this. I'm truly just curious how you picture these things going.

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